Emotional Intelligence and Growing Up

I remember, from a young age, spending a lot of time at my grandparents home while my own parents were at work. My siblings and I were always super active and busy with each other, leaving my grandparents to attend to their own laundry list of things to do to maintain their home, their family, and each other.

My grandmother could always be found in one of her two favourite places: the kitchen and the garden. You would hear her singing as she gave incredible attention to detail in whatever she was doing. Chopping and dicing and mixing ingredients in painful preciseness for the perfect pasta sauce. Weeding and pruning her garden row by row, plant by plant, to yield the most amazing fruit. My grandmother modeled a trait that I admired greatly.


I wanted to experience the sense of pride that came from a job more than well done. And following in her footsteps by paying attention to detail with painful precision has allowed me to find that sense of pride in life.

My grandfather, on the other hand, was usually gearing up for a bike ride, a run, a swim, a workout at the YMCA. He also worked the garden, and cared for the home, but his great passion was in physical exercise and competition. It didn't matter what the weather was like, if he was a little bit tired, or a little bit sore, of just finished a 12 hour shift. He was going to move.

From my grandfather I learned a great deal about resiliency. Tenacity. Competition. Discipline. These are the traits that I appreciate the most having learned from a young age. They have served me tremendously well in successfully achieving goals I have put before myself. These are often the traits that others will compliment me on. They are, after all, traits that so many people aspire to have because they are often seen as the traits needed to achieve goals that elude us.

"If only I were more disciplined. If only I had more will power. If only I wasn't tempted so much. Then I'd achieve that goal."

My grandmother and grandfather were on to something. They certainly didn't call it Emotional Intelligence. However, the more I dig in to EI, the more I understand it's big meaning and it's subtle nuances. Traits like resiliency, tenacity, discipline, perseverance, and mastery are traits that can be nurtured. I believe strongly that there needs to be a innate level of these traits already present, and then under the right demonstration, guidance, focused practice, and coaching, they can be nurtured to grow bigger, stronger, deeper.

A client and coach relationship, for Emotional Intelligence does just this. As a EQi certified coach and a mentor, I know how to tap into the traits that live loud and proud as well as those that are dormant and quiet so that you can live your optimal life. So that you can elevate to your highest potential. If you are looking for this...I'm here to help.

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